Have you ever noticed that if you go out into a public space (such as a dance club), and wonder if someone is single...it is extremely difficult to know whether or not it is safe to "approach" that someone you might be interested in?
Because you might get beat up by that person's partner?
"What do you think you are looking at?"
"Um...nothing...I was trying to find the bathroom...and it is certainly not behind your girlfriend. My bad."
I have a lot of empathy for guys, as they are in the "traditional" role of being the ones who must do that initial approach...risking rejection, public humiliation, or possessiveness from that person's current flame.
In the gay community, who is responsible for "making the first move" is confusing anyway...I mean, it doesn't align along those "butch/femme" stereotypes...it really doesn't...
It is also potentially frustrating going out with a friend as a single person in the gay community, because people might just assume you are "with" your friend...and you would never know if someone was interested, anyway.
So, I think there should be some kind of "single" signifier, to take the question (and potential for bodily harm) right out of it.
If the above t-shirt came in a flannel version, that could really work for many members of the lesbian community. Perhaps at clubs they could offer some kind of subtle signifier to their single patrons.
A rainbow wristband. A name tag. Face paint....
...sparklers that could be lit when Katy Perry's "Firework" song is played. (This would work more effectively in gay men's clubs).
"BABY YOU'RE A FIREWORK!" (club instantly ignites in a blinding cloud of smoke..)
Anyhoo...
I'm just sayin'
"Um...nothing...I was trying to find the bathroom...and it is certainly not behind your girlfriend. My bad." - love it! the problem is you don't know whether someone is single or not - so what can you...just try, be nice and ask.
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